-Stress and the things to do to get out of it-
-Trauma Responses-
There are four different trauma responses, Flight, Fight, Fawn, and Freeze. Many of these responses can be triggered by your hierarchy of need not being met, because that causes a lot of stress.
My trauma response is to freeze, and that can be characterized as feeling stuck, shame, or depressed and it can be showed by zoning out, getting quiet, and not moving as much.
I typically know when I am stressed when I feel like I want to cry or when my body starts to feel lighter, when I start to feel warm, my face feels flushed, or when my legs feel numb. Whenever this happens I usually get embarrassed and I stop talking or start to space out.
-Emotion I want to feel--Enjoyment-
-Enjoyment is the feeling of positive emotions like joy. -You feel it in many different ways like sensory pleasure, relief, pride, excitement, etc... -Some triggers can be participating in good/kind acts, relieving stress, or seeing something funny. -Your facial features when feeling enjoyment are your eyes are narrowed, cheeks are raised, and you are smiling. And with your body language enjoyment makes your posture more relaxed, your voice gets louder, and usually you feel more energetic. -Feeling enjoyment helps us make friends, have a good time, and it makes us motivated to do different things. -How I can make it happen-I can make this work by figuring out if the people I am surrounding myself with actually have my best interests at heart, and are having positive self talk with one another.
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I'd like to say that my hierarchy of needs are mostly met, and the needs that aren't met usually are smaller and I feel fine without them. I do notice that whenever one of these things can't happen I often feel frustrated or uncomfortable. Me wearing my boots however isn't super important (I just thought it would be a silly thing to add in) but I do like wearing them because they are comfortable.
-Emotion I don't want to feel--Shame-
-Shame is the feeling of being embarrassed caused from doing somethings wrong or general anxiety. -You feel it when you have low self esteem, distressed, self-loathing, social anxiety, etc... -Some triggers for shame can be childhood trauma, mental health conditions bullying, being excluded, etc... -Shame's facial features would have down turned eyes, faltering/no smile, or a disappointed look. And with your body language looks like a slacked posture and a lowered head. -Feeling shame signals the fact that you're embarrassed and the fact that you have experienced some type of positive emotion. -How I can make it stop-I can make this stop by reflecting on how I have been treating myself and thinking about weather or not I have been too harsh on myself.
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